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Home > Featured in Rehab > When to Break Up With Your Therapist

July 20, 2021 By Kristina Robb-Dover

When to Break Up With Your Therapist

When it's time to change therapists

This article has been reviewed for accuracy by our peer review team which includes clinicians and medical professionals. Learn more about our peer review process.

Making the decision to switch to a new therapist can be nerve-wracking. An individual may feel like they’ve shared all their secrets and struggles with their mental health provider, and it can feel awkward to end that relationship. Recognizing when it’s time to make a change and, more importantly, knowing how to do it can provide peace of mind for those who wonder if they can get more from their therapy sessions.

A Therapist May Not Be a Good Fit

It’s normal for individuals to go through periods in which their feelings about their therapists change. In the beginning, when the person is excited about gaining new perspectives and coping skills for issues that have bothered them, their admiration for their therapist may be high.

As time goes on, those feelings tend to wane. This can be due to a wide range of factors, including the types of issues the therapy sessions address, the level of stress that inevitably accompanies any change process or factors separate from the sessions themselves, such as the time or money commitment.

Occasionally, after a few sessions, individuals realize the therapist they chose isn’t a good fit. Maybe the sessions feel rushed, or the therapist seems detached and distracted. The client may not feel heard or understood, or maybe there are concerns regarding confidentiality. Other times, the client realizes that there’s simply a personality conflict.

The truth is that all mental health care providers have had clients discontinue therapy at some point. While no one likes hearing that they aren’t someone else’s cup of tea, therapists recognize that not all clients are good candidates for their methods and philosophy, and personality clashes or differences of opinion can impede the effectiveness of counseling.

Additionally, therapists are generally very adept at reading social cues, and they often know when they and their clients aren’t connecting. As a result, they’re unlikely to be surprised to hear a client has decided to seek help elsewhere. In fact, they’ve likely had to end therapeutic relationships with clients they didn’t feel were benefiting from treatment.

Etiquette for Switching Therapists

The steps an individual takes to switch to a different therapist depend on the type of treatment they’re receiving.

For those who’ve taken advantage of online therapy platforms, ending sessions may simply be a matter of not logging in. Online counseling has several benefits, including affordability and easy access to professional help, but it doesn’t require the same degree of commitment as traditional face-to-face sessions. As a result, follow-through rates are considerably lower, and individuals feel much less guilt about ghosting their therapist.

Ending in-person therapy sessions requires a little more planning. Making the transition may feel intimidating to the client, but it doesn’t need to be painful. Following a few tips can help the individual tie up loose ends with as little awkwardness as possible.

Let the Therapist Know

At the beginning of their next session, the client should let their therapist know they won’t be continuing treatment. They may want to prepare answers for basic follow-up questions, such as why they’re making a change or what they liked or disliked about their sessions. Therapy is proven to be highly effective, but the wrong therapist can negatively impact the client’s mental health journey. Knowing when and how to switch therapists can provide the confidence clients need to pursue their best treatment and what they’re hoping to gain by seeing a different therapist.

Get a Copy of the Mental Health Records

Clients are legally entitled to copies of their health records. While they may have to pay a fee for photocopying their records or sign a release form, it’s always a good idea to obtain these records before moving on.

In some cases, records have bare-bones information, such as what time the therapy sessions began and ended and a generalization of what was discussed. However, some therapists keep more in-depth notes, which may be helpful to the client’s next therapist.

Ask for a Recommendation

Even if an individual doesn’t connect with their therapist, chances are the therapist has a colleague who may be a better fit. When a client has been open about why they’re ending the therapeutic relationship and what they’re hoping to gain from future sessions, their therapist may be able to point them in the right direction.

When to Change Therapists

Some individuals stop going to therapy when it begins to feel uncomfortable. Even if their goal is to recover from addiction, overcome social phobias or treat a mental illness such as depression, the journey can be challenging. This discomfort may actually be a good sign, and oftentimes, the individual is better off continuing their sessions.

Occasionally, there are red flags that are good indications that it’s time to switch.

Repetition Is Becoming the New Normal

Ending a therapy relationship might make sense if you find yourself (or notice your therapist) repeating things. Some repetition in therapy is inevitable because you may need to circle back around or table a particular topic for deeper discussion. However, if you feel like you’re rehashing the same thing over and over (and over) again, it may be time to break up with your therapist and get a fresh perspective from someone new. After all, fruitless repetition of topics you’ve covered and left unresolved isn’t a step forward and can keep you looped in the past.

Progress Is Minimal or Nonexistent

While successful therapy can take years and no one’s road to resolving issues is instantaneous, not seeing results within a few months is one of the signs you should seek new therapeutic connections. The therapist’s goals for your sessions may differ from yours — which means the therapist may be wrong for you. Ending a therapy relationship because it’s going nowhere makes sense.

Therapy Goals Are Not Aligned

Imagine sharing your decision to break ties with a toxic partner and your therapist immediately shoots it down; this should be a cue to explore other options. When your therapist starts pushing their belief system or what they would do in a similar situation, let the therapy termination process begin.

You’re Not Front-and-Center in Discussions

Therapists often create camaraderie and build trust with their patients by talking about their own lives and problems. However, the job of an effective therapist is to focus the therapy on your life and your problems so you can heal. Make sure you’re front and center or head for the door.

Skills, Expertise, Knowledge or Training Is Lacking

Although factors leading up to seeking out therapy are important in deciding which therapist to choose, working with a therapist who has specific skills, expertise and knowledge to serve your needs is the best option.

Blurred (or Crossed) Lines

Sessions between a mental health professional and their patients are bound by ethics, first and foremost. Therapy is an environment conducive to solving problems and forging forward, but your therapist should keep it professional in every session.

Concerns About Switching Therapists

For those who don’t enjoy conflict, changing therapists can feel particularly uncomfortable. To avoid awkwardness, many decide to simply stick it out until they’re discouraged and decide to leave therapy altogether. Ultimately, it’s important to remember that a few minutes of discomfort is much better than getting burned out with ineffective therapy.

The top concern regarding switching to a new therapist is that it will cause hurt feelings. Once again, most therapists are aware when their clients aren’t benefiting from sessions, and many have been on the giving end of the break-up talk. Therapists understand that sometimes things just don’t work out. If a therapist becomes defensive, this may reinforce the client’s decision to find treatment elsewhere.

Another common concern an individual may have is that they won’t have success with another therapist. While certain counseling methods are research-backed and widely used, techniques, strategies and approaches within a given theory vary from one therapist to another. Just because a client doesn’t click with one provider doesn’t mean their next experience won’t be significantly better.

Making the Switch

Clients can take a few steps to make switching to a new therapist as painless as possible.

  • Talk openly. An open conversation that’s brief, friendly and to the point can ensure the therapeutic relationship ends on good terms.
  • Learn from the experience. Chances are, the individual comes out of the experience with a better idea of what they’re looking for from a therapist. As they’re looking for a new therapist, gathering recommendations and reading client reviews, this insight comes in handy.
  • Arrange for a records transfer. Depending on how detailed they are, notes from previous therapy sessions may provide your new therapist with useful clinical and diagnostic information. Even when in-depth notes aren’t available, a copy of these records can help your new therapist be more informed about how to file insurance coverage claims.

Making the decision to pursue therapy can be hard, and it can be particularly discouraging when a therapist isn’t a good fit. Recognizing when to switch therapists and knowing how to make the transition as smooth as possible can help individuals grow on their journey toward mental health.

Ending a Therapy Relationship? What Now?

Up to 57% of people seeking therapy don’t come back after session one, and ineffective or unethical therapy is often a culprit. Ending a therapy relationship on your mind? Reach out to FHE Health to learn more about when to break up with your therapist and how FHE can help.

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