5 Ways to Support a Recovering Family Member

5 Ways to support a Recovering family member

When a family member is suffering from the disease of alcoholism and addiction it’s felt by everyone. The pain from their actions can be significant monetarily, emotionally, physically, emotionally and spiritually. However, the truth of the matter is that for this member of our family to embrace and experience recovery to the fullest and undergo a personal transformation to a life beyond their wildest dreams, the support of the family is imperative to help them get there.

Tough love or support for addiction?The road to recovery is a rocky one for everyone involved, but there are ways you can support that member of your family from a healthy distance that can make the task more manageable and increase the likelihood of success. Many family members feel caught between the dichotomy of wanting to love and support them no matter what or showing them tough love, ensuring that they in no way enable their behavior. 

5 Ways to Offer Healthy Support to a Family Member

When we talk about providing healthy support to a recovering family member it can be easily misinterpreted as bearing the weight of their sobriety on our own shoulders. This is not the case.

The individual in active addiction is responsible for their own sobriety. While it is a medical condition, the tools for recovery are readily available and it is their own responsibility to do the work to get to the solution. That being said, any support for a recovering member of the family by the rest of the family is sure to help the process. We’ve outlined 5 ways from our experience that have found to be the most successful for providing this support:

The 5 ways to support a recovering family member with addiction

  1. Treatment – The first and most important option is to help remove the impacted family member out of the unhealthy environment they are suffering in to one that can contribute positively to their growth. Many times, the individual in need of recovery requires medical attention at the onset to help safely detox from the substances being abuse. Treatment programs at the Florida House are equipped with the experienced staff necessary for supporting the physical, emotional and spiritual needs of the individual struggling. This includes recovered addicts, medical professionals’ other specialists that understand how to help redirect the individual’s habits and ways of thinking into that of someone ready to take positive steps towards a life of recovery.Many people who are active in addiction are no ready to go to treatment, and need an intervention to give them the final push to make that important life change. We can give you the tools and skills to facilitate a successful intervention for your loved. If you don’t feel comfortable running an intervention on your own then we can match you with a professional interventionist who can guide you through the whole process and be there to lead the discussion in person.Treatment options vary in cost and there is a tremendous amount of assumption surrounding what the family might be responsible for. No matter your financial standing, it’s important to reach out to a professional to assess your insurance options and how they can contribute to the financial responsibility of care. Contact a professional to get you the facts about what type of treatment options are available to you and the member of your family in need. Whether you have full health insurance coverage, a state funded plan, or no insurance at all, we can help you find help. There are resources out there for everyone regardless of financial status and health insurance coverage.
  2. Recovery Fellowships – When a member in your family is in need of recovery there are many free and supportive resources available in our communities 7 days a week. The fellowships of AA/NA/CA/etc. have resources available online that provide information to local meetings. These meetings are full of peers who deal with similar struggles and found a solution to live a life in recovery that provides for a level of joy that your family member may not realize is possible! These groups tend to welcome new members with open arms and can provide your struggling family member with a wealth of love and resources to help them along their journey. While most meetings are closed to non-recovery individuals, offering the member of your family a ride or to cover their uber is a reasonable level of support that can benefit them and keep you physically and emotionally safe. For many people in recovery, meetings like this are the backbone of their sobriety. Seeing people on a regular basis who know what your going through and can offer support and advice is the best way to sustain sobriety.
  3. Stand Strong – Remember that those in early recovery are sick, this means they are typically highly manipulative in order to achieve unhealthy objectives. This is not a criticism to them as people, it is simply a byproduct of their disease. This is why support also comes in the way of standing firm in your position not to enable this behavior. If they ask for money it’s ok, and important, to say NO. They may say they are starving or in danger, they may criticize your parenting for not being supportive, understand that it is not personal. Extend a loving offer to get them the help they need, but if they refuse for whatever justifiable reason they deploy from their vast arsenal of excuses, reinforce your position. For many, this can be an enormous breakthrough in their recovery process. Showing tough love can be a very difficult process for family members, but often times it is absolutely necessary in order to get the individual to understand they gravity of their addictive lifestyle.
  4. Clean the House – As you continue to support the member of your family consider treatment, things you may have in the house that you might think a normal part of your lifestyle could be better left outside until they’re in a better place. This includes non-critical medications and alcohol. While early in recovery, it’s important to try and remove as many substances that can make continuing their path of destruction easier to access. Individuals in early recovery can be some of the most professional detectives you ever meet. They can ransack your bathroom, closets and other places you might think make for great hiding places. Your best bet is to remove them for now. Look closely at all prescriptions and medicines you have in your home and remove anything they may be dangerous. Something as small as a few old pills can cause a relapse into months or years of addictive behavior.
  5. Love Unconditionally – In these times of struggle the individual in our family active in addiction doesn’t feel very loving of themselves. When they’re in the soup, the pain can be overwhelming. In our experience, many times those who recover reminisce on times that helped them get through the pain are when others loved them when they were unable to love themselves. Try to keep in mind that the person you still love is there, they’re just ill. Care emotionally for them as you would any other individual going through difficult times, constantly remind them how much you love them. It is always worth it to maintain support regardless of how many times they have lied to you, stole from you, or wronged you. In the end, their life is always more important and you could be the only thing that is keeping them on the right path. Oftentimes family members need support personally as they deal with a destructive addict. If you need help finding a counselor or just someone who has been through something similar please don’t hesitate to reach out for help.

Supporting a Family Member in Recovery

We should remember that care and support come in different forms. Offering your hand to help them get the support they need is imperative, but equally as important is maintaining boundaries while reminding them how much you love them. If you have a family member in recovery and not sure what you’re options are, reach out to Florida House for help immediately! We have helped thousands of family members through the process of supporting a loved one in addiction. We have the tools and the team with the experience and compassion necessary to help you every step of the way. We would love to answer an questions or concerns you may have.

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