One of the most challenging aspects of recovering from alcohol and drug addiction is helping rebuild your confidence, which may have crumbled a bit, and the first step to building confidence is the most important thing you can learn, which is how to love yourself. This blog series will explore the tangible ways you can show yourself some love.
Going back to Maslow’s Hierarchy of needs, in this article we will be looking further into what it means to fulfill your safety needs.
Remember Maslow? He’s the psychologist that said that we need to build on our basic levels of need before we can really reach self actualization, or the full extent of our potential.
How to meet your basic safety needs:
Your safety needs are based in your protection from the outside elements, security, order or structure, stability and freedom from fear.
How can you tend to these needs?
Have a safe and secure place to sleep. When you are coming away from spending time at a drug detox facility or alcohol rehab recovery program you need to make sure you have a place to call home, or at least a solid place to sleep at night that is safe from the elements. If you are homeless, please reach out to a shelter today to get a bed and work toward a consistent and secure place to stay. They can help you make a plan.
Security is the idea that you can trust that you are safe. If you have a chronic fear for your safety, ask for help. Talk to a friend, religious leader, or loved one. And if you don’t feel secure because someone is threatening you, please call the police and get away from the threat immediately.
Create a consistent structure for your life. Humans thrive in a schedule. Create some predictability for yourself so that your body can start to settle in and feel safe. That means, go to bed and wake up at the same time every day, eating consistently, etc. This one is big if you’re recovering from a life of addiction.
Stability means that you can start to breathe. When you’re stable you don’t have to always be on your toes. You can take care of the need for stability by being consistent. By remembering that every single time you choose sobriety, to fulfill your basic needs, to treat yourself as worthy of a healthy and sober life, it becomes easier. Everyone needs stability and the room to trust yourself.
Freedom from fear is something that everyone desperately wants. “Fear is the mind-killer” Frank Herbert tells us in Dune. Even if it is coming from a Science Fiction novel, this isn’t the stuff of futuristic technology. It’s right out of Maslow’s theory. If you are constantly overrun by fear, you will never be able to focus on your other needs. For this it helps to practice facing your fears. Start at something small. Are you afraid to email that friend you haven’t talked to while? Just shoot them off a quick “hello, hope you’re well!” email. The thing is when you succeed at that, the next time it will be easier to face your fear. Let the successes snowball. You’ll start to face them quicker and with less intimidation the more intentional you are about it.
In the next part of this series we will break down tending to your needs to belong and feel loved so you have the foundation to move on toward understanding your personal esteem needs.
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